Mommy Homework: Secrets to Successful Marriages

In order to have a successful marriage you need to be perfect wife for Your Own Husband. This sounds like a tall order - but it gets much easier when you remember that God himself made you to be perfect for the job!!
Then He called you to do it and those he calls he also equips.
He left you lots of helpful hints and tips (the Bible) and even a job description (Proverb 31:10-31). The job is carried out under constant supervision (His) and on the job training is available for those who request it (He gives wisdom to those who ask).
Warning - The task is impossible to perform correctly without following the helpful hints and tips (reading your bible) and requesting the on the job training (praying).

Exert from job description - Proverbs 31:10
“A capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman–who is he who can find her? She is far more precious than jewels and her value is far above rubies or pearls“.
I like rubies and I like pearls - I have a little pearl in a heart shaped cage on a silver chain. I call it my proverb 31 necklace because it reminds me of two things. First that I too want to be a virtuous woman who’s value is far more than pearls. Second and more importantly it reminds me how pearls are made.
You see it’s a wish pearl which you buy still inside the oyster. You have to open the shell, ferret around and then pop out the pearl. It really is quite exciting!
Do you know how that little creature made my pearl? Something irritated it so the oyster started to cover it in beauty. The more the irritation the more beauty the oyster had to give out.
When your husband gives you irritation give him beauty - God’s kind of beauty “…….. love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.” (Galatians 5:22)

Also I am in what is called an unequally yoked marriage. (I became a Christian after I married and my husband is not (yet) a Christian). So I have to give my husband a lot of leeway when it comes to being the “perfect husband”. You see I am yoked to Jesus (who will provide all the extra strength I need) whereas he is struggling to do his best in his own strength (and I would say doing a very splendid job considering)!
So when he does hand me an irritation I have to choose - Shall I make pearls or shall I made waves??? Remember Love is a Decision not a feeling. If you want a successful marriage choose to love!